Strategic Love Play is imbued with insightfulness, exploring the pretences of modern dating and how we find human connection in a contemporary world.
On Saturday Night I was delighted to attend Soho Theatre to see Strategic Love Play, written by Miriam Battye. This play has been recommended to me by several people after extremely positive acclaim from the Edinburgh Fringe festival and a previous run at the Soho Theatre last year.
Strategic Love Play explores a contemporary society’s expectations of relationships, love and dating. When we are living within the thralls of technology, dating apps and swipes, which promises an abundance of choice, and a surface-level method of selection, Battye’s play ultimately asks, what is the cost of this?
Under Katie Posner’s direction, Strategic Love Play cleverly explores the pretence of modern dating, dramatizing the strategies that we employ in order to find real human connection. Set on a revolving stage, the play mirrors Him (Archie Backwell) and Her (played by Letty Thomas)‘s attempt to escape the cyclical vacuousness of modern dating, one beer at a time.
This leads to Her proposing a hypothetical question – what would happen if they should decide to drop their guise? What if they decided to…just…stay? To choose each other. To be a “firm fucking hand to get through this with”.
As Woman asks – “Wouldn’t it be good if we could…skip all the shit?”
And thus, they come up with a strategy to avoid the heartache of rejection, loneliness, and judgement.
I must assume that the significance of the characters being named Him and Her is to connote universality. However, this fails to resonate, due to the fact that Her feels like a characterture. And not a great one. She consistently commentates on the conversation and everything that happens in a tediously pretentious and self-aggrandising way, her cynicism at times a little over-the-top and her out-bursts a little cringey. She is performing – and her character does not feel relatable. She feels like a manic pixie nightmare girl – because, of course, Him does not find her mania attractive – (at least at first.)
We also do not get to understand Her’s back story, and perhaps more of an insight into why she is the way she is would have altered my perception of her as a character. I found myself feeling a little frustrated that I could not feel more connected to her.
But perhaps this is the point – dating, after all, is a performance. An exhausting, at times soul-destroying one. Letty Thomas does wonders with her portrayal of Her; her energy was captivating, and her vocal performance was strong, delivering Her’s quick-witted digs and lines dripping with disdain with perfect timing and pace.
Him, played by Archie Backwell, was much more relatable, and after disclosing his own personal heartache, I could believe why this man could have every intention of going through with their strategy. His incessant need to “not be a dickhead” rings with authenticity and Backwell’s delivery paints him as a fully flawed man with beautifully raw edges.
At times, the set and direction led me to question the reliability of the characters, whether this is an amalgamation of several dates with different people, or perhaps an insight into the inner world of our protagonists. Are we living in their imagination? We see their inner conflicts, insecurities, and suppressed desires.
But this also led me to feel confused, as the play oscillates between naturalistic and unnaturalistic dialogue, believable and unbelievable characters, and a realistic and also slightly surrealist set-up – at one point beer starts to fall from the lamp above, which felt random and out of place.
The ending, however, was well-earned and brave. It embodied the incredibly flimsy foundations upon which one builds expectations and promises in modern dating, only for it to end in disappointment and disappearance before the protagonists move on to the next date. The play is imbued with insightfulness and evokes a feeling of despair that echoes the character’s predicaments – Is this what we have come to? A society of lonely people, bereft of connection and romance?
And does living in a capitalist contemporary society mean being unable to truly connect? The play is a definite must-see.
REVIEWER: Ella Rowdon









